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The Miracle of a Little Baby Boy

Almost two months ago my little miracle was born. This sweet boy, who changed everything, emerged from behind the veil.

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Every birth is truly a miracle when one considers all that must be aligned for life to be created and brought into this world. But some births seems slightly more miraculous than others. If you’ve struggled with infertility or recurrent miscarriages you have an idea what I’m talking about. When you’ve waited so long to meet that sweet child, it almost seems unreal when he finally gets here. When you’ve waited so long… it can be hard to believe.

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As I consider the season of advent I’m thinking of Mary, the mother of Jesus and the birth of her miracle baby. Her people had been waiting for this King for thousands of years. But they never expected him to come as a baby. I remember being so very surprised to be pregnant, just as Mary was (although I’m sure she was probably a LOT more shocked than I was!). I think about the reality of what her situation might have been like as a pregnant young woman. She might have had morning sickness, swollen ankles, difficulty sleeping, food aversions, even stretch marks. I think about those last days of her pregnancy. The journey from Nazareth to Bethlehem was a long one, and though legend tells that Mary rode a donkey, there is no mention of her riding a donkey in Scripture. Being as poor as they were, Mary and Joseph more than likely had to walk the nearly 80 miles to Joseph’s hometown for the census. I think about the last days of my pregnancy how Adam and I took many long walks to prepare my body for labor, and how everyone told us that it might help start the contractions.

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I imagine her first few contractions. She was a very young girl so she may not have known what to expect, but then again she probably saw many farm animals give birth. I wonder if it was a long labor? I wonder if Joseph was a patient and supportive birth coach? Perhaps God showed mercy on the mother of our Savior and gave her a quick and easy labor. Or maybe, like me, she had a very long, intense, labor. Was Jesus, God incarnate, in optimal position for birth? Perhaps he was breech. Or, most mystifying and wonderful a thought to me, perhaps Immanuel was born in the caul, behind the veil, like my own son.

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Was Jesus a colicky baby? Did he spit up all over Joseph’s tunic? Did he pee all over Mary while she was changing him? (lol Luke has done this several times). Did he love to be rocked and nursed to sleep? What must it have felt like to kiss the velvety forehead of the tiny baby Jesus?

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Have you ever imagined these details?

The truth is that none of this matters, except to say that this child, the miraculous birth of this tiny baby boy, was real! It is so much more real to me as I look into the eyes of my own son this Christmas. I wonder what it must have felt like for Mary to carry this baby, to go through the pain of natural childbirth, then to hold him in her arms knowing that he was the God of the Universe. Considering the logistics of all this gives new meaning to the humble beginnings of Christ, and what an incredible thing it was for Him to come the way he did. I am still stunned that I finally have this boy, but imagine how much more amazed Mary was, that not only did she have a beautiful Son, but to know that he was the long awaited Messiah must have just been overwhelming.

This year I am blessed beyond measure and at times I just can’t take in all that God has lavished upon me. Between post-partum hormones, freely flowing oxytocin from breastfeeding, and the simple joy that I have knowing that Jesus loves me, and cares for me, and came to this planet to save you and me, I have found myself in tears on many occasions over the last eight weeks.When I look at Luke, I forget all the heartache of the last few years, and all I see is hope. Mary must have been overtaken with emotions staring directly into the sweet little face of the newborn Christ because He was and is the hope of a nation… He is the hope of the world.

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This year I pray that you consider the reality of what happened on that first Christmas and what it means for you if you believe.

And now, since you are all so awesome. I thought I’d give you a little visual snack as a Christmas gift. Who doesn’t love seeing amazing photos of adorable babies? One of my dear readers, Niko Williams, found my blog on Pinterest, and it turns out we’re neighbors! Is that a God thing or what? She took these photos of Luke when he was 12 days old. I am simply overwhelmed with JOY! 🙂

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This has been another amazing year here at Homemaker Chic. I have been so blessed by so many readers who have written to me to share how my story has inspired and encouraged them. I am very thankful for all of you! My hope is that this blog, and my story will always bring glory and honor to God because He is the reason I can speak about these things. Merry Christmas – I love you all!

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How I Cured My Infertility Naturally

How-I-Cured-My-Infertility-Naturally-HomemakerChic.comMany of you know about my struggle with infertility. After inexplicably losing 5 babies (including twin girls), and undergoing months of testing, the doctors were able to find no medical reason for why this was happening. The only answer I got was that it might be some sort of autoimmune issue, but no tests gave any answer as to what kind. We finally gave up on trying to have a baby for awhile and dove head first into the adoption process. We believe that God has called us to do this at some point in our lives. But God had another plan…

Still puzzled by why this was happening to me, I began researching recurrent pregnancy loss (RPL). I knew I didn’t want to be pregnant while we were focusing on adoption, but I wanted to be healthy and whole, so I started looking into natural ways to improve my situation. Among other things, I found that BPA was linked to RPL. So I began taking steps to eradicate this harmful chemical from my life. But I wanted more.

Enter providence. Through a series of divine interactions, I ended up working with a Christian naturopath named Cheryl who gave me the ALCAT test. ALCAT is a food sensitivity test that measures inflammatory reactions in your blood when it is exposed to various foods and chemicals. It turned out that I was intolerant to several foods that I had no idea about (lobster, avocado, basil, broccoli, white potato, button mushroom, and splenda aka sucralose.) Cheryl taught me that health begins in our guts. I learned that all the antibiotics I had taken several years ago when I had chronic tonsillitis, and the birth control pills I had taken for years, had likely torn up the lining of my stomach. I learned that consuming harmful chemicals can make it more difficult for your body to absorb necessary nutrients (and more importantly for my babies to get the nutrients THEY needed!). I learned that eating the wrong foods can cause inflammation in MANY places in the body, possibly including my reproductive organs. I learned that food is medicine, and that by eating wholesome healthful foods I could begin to heal my body from the inside out.

In addition to removing my food intolerances and BPA, I also began living the Real Food lifestyle. I cut out processed foods, and anything with ingredients that I couldn’t pronounce. I began taking probiotics to help fortify my gut, super vitamins to amplify my immune system, and drinking raspberry leaf tea daily to tone my uterus. I began eating whole, organic, and locally farmed foods. I limited the amount of meat I was eating to once a week, and exchanged hormone laced, GMO corn-fed beef for organic grass fed beef. I cut out coffee. I began exercising. And I began drinking a LOT of water. 75 ounces a day! I’m not saying it was easy to change all of this. In fact, one time I was at the supermarket almost in tears because I felt like everything I was used to buying was off limits. I texted Cheryl saying, “Grocery shopping is too hard, I think I’ll just buy wine and go home.” She laughed hysterically and then gently encouraged me to press on. It was very difficult at first, but I was committed to doing this right.

And after just 6 weeks of this new lifestyle I found myself pregnant…. again.

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As the weeks passed I could tell this pregnancy was different. For one thing, I experienced zero spotting. Every single other pregnancy started out with spotting. Secondly, I had morning sickness which I had never had before. After I passed the 10 week mark (the farthest any of my babies had ever survived) I began to seriously wonder if this was actually going to be the one. Week by week this baby has carried on. We’ve gotten to see our sweet little monkey on an ultrasound, actually looking like a baby! This is a completely new experience for us since normally we get terrible news when we have ultrasounds. Systematically during this pregnancy I have eliminated one unnatural thing after another. GMO foods, chewing gum, listerine, face wash, moisturizers, deodorant, and the list goes on. I’ve replaced MANY things with coconut oil. More on that later. I’m still taking vitamins, probiotics and drinking the raspberry leaf tea daily.

So now, at 18 weeks pregnant, I am finally believing that God is giving us this baby… this boy. My son. baby-boy-16-weeks-ultrasound-homemakerchic.com

There’s one other aspect to this process that I want to share with you. In addition to getting my body on track, God began to put my soul on track. He taught me that He is good if He gives me a child, and He is good if I lose 20 more pregnancies. This was a fact that was very hard for me to understand in the midst of my losses. I wondered many times why a good God would let this happen to me over and over again. He taught me that these children were all His before they were mine, and that He was just as brokenhearted over my suffering as I was. I realized that in all of my suffering I forgot the fact that my 5 little sweeties never had to experience loss, suffering, heartache, or rejection. They had the amazing privilege of going straight to Heaven! He is holding them in His hands. Hands that are infinitely more perfect than mine. How could I ever be sad about that? I learned that while God had not yet answered my prayers to heal my body, He kept His promise in the bible that He would heal my broken heart (He heals the brokenhearted and bandages their wounds. Psalm 147:3).

Losing-a-pregnancyAnd finally God asked me the question that I had been so afraid to answer for so many years… “Do you trust Me?” I thought I had trusted Him, but the truth was, I never had. I finally surrendered my fertility and my life to the God of the universe, knowing and believing that He knows my desires, and wouldn’t place this deep urge to be a mother inside me and never fulfill it. When we stepped forward to adopt, I was certain that this was how God was going to fulfill that desire in me (and we still hope to continue with that in the near future) but I can now see how He was molding me and shaping me to become a whole person, inside and out, so that I could become the best mother possible for my children.

If you’ve been through loss, I sincerely encourage you to consider crying out to God and ask him to make you whole. He loves you, and He knows your hurts more than anyone else. Trusting Him has been a journey, but my life has never been so peaceful or fruitful.

The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. Psalm 34:18

Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him. Psalm 127:3

Infertility in the Bible


As I was doing my Bible reading yesterday it suddenly occurred to me that there are quite a lot of women in the there who suffered from infertility. Yet these women were not forgotten by God, and were eventually given a child in God’s perfect timing. I believe that everything that is mentioned in the Bible is something quite important to God if He saw fit to include it in His Word. As I’ve struggled with recurrent pregnancy loss I’ve often found myself longing for the God of Hannah, and Sarai, and Elizabeth to miraculously come through and bring us a child. I stumbled upon this article and it seems that I’m not the only one who has thought this way. I hope you enjoy this excerpt from Alysssa who wrote this article on the blog When you Rise.  She has such an insightful way of looking at this topic. I hope you are blessed by this as I was.

The Bible and Barrenness — What does it have to do with Infertility today?

by: Alyssa

STRUGGLE #1: BARREN WOMEN HAVING KIDS. Have you ever noticed how many barren women are in the Bible? And they all miraculously have kids. Every single one of the Patriarchs has a “barren” wife: Abraham and Sarah, Isaac and Rebecca, Jacob and Rachel. Later we see Manoah and his wife, Elkanah and Hannah, and finally, in the New Testament, Zechariah and Elizabeth.

 
Let me tell you, after two years on the “trying for kids” roller-coaster my heart is raw to these miraculous stories. And at the end of each month my heart weeps as life pours out of me and my hope deflates. It hurts. Barrenness feels like death.
 
STRUGGLE #2: PROMISES OF CHILDREN. Have you ever noticed how many promises of children are in the Bible? I’ll quote just two:
 
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Your wife will be like a fruitful vine 
   within your house; 
your children will be like olive shoots 
   around your table. 
Behold, thus shall the person be blessed 
   who fears the LORD.
 
Now, I don’t know if I even want my children to be quite like “olive shoots” (that implies a LARGE number of kids), but really, where’s the love, God? You tell me that the person who serves and fears you will be blessed with children. With the grace of Jesus I strive to be that person, so where’s the blessing? Why haven’t you “visited” me like you visited the barren women of the Bible?
 
Exodus 23:25-26
You shall serve the LORD your God, and he will bless your bread and your water, and I will take sickness away from among you. None shall miscarry or be barren in your land; I will fulfill the number of your days.
 
And that Exodus quote was pretty fantastic, wasn’t it? Food for everyone. No sickness. No barrenness. Everyone lives to a ripe old age. Wait . . . that doesn’t sound like reality at all!
 
That’s because what we have here is a picture of restoration to how things used to be—a new Eden.  When God brought his people out of Egypt it was a mini-new-creation. But because of the messiness and sin of our world the ideal went unrealized. In the Exodus, God may have created a new people for himself, but he had not yet dealt permanently with sin.
 
This helps me understand these “unanswered” promises. Everywhere you find such fantastic promises in scripture—like Psalm 128—it is God painting a picture of Eden. Of the ideal that was lost because of sin, but that will one day be restored. And in the meantime we get real-life glimpses of it!
 
Let’s jump back to the barren women of the Bible, because they offer a few of those “real-life glimpses.” What do they all have in common? It’s that when God finally blesses them with a child, it is a VERY IMPORTANT CHILD.
 
            Sarah – Isaac (Patriarch)
            Rebecca – Esau and Jacob (Patriarch)
            Rachel – Joseph (his wisdom saves the known world from starvation)
            Wife of Manoah – Sampson (delivers the people from the Philistines)
            Hannah – Samuel (prepares the people for David)
            Elizabeth – John the Baptist (prepares the people for Jesus)
 
Do you see what is going on here? Barrenness—death—is emphasized in all these stories to make it really obvious that God is doing something miraculous in the world. God is overcoming death. These stories give us glimpses of Eden—of new creation.
 
I believe that Elizabeth is the last story of a barren woman in scripture because her son prepared the way for Jesus. After Elizabeth, there is no more need for “glimpses” because the new creation has come. Jesus has dealt death a fatal blow. With poetic symmetry, God chose to cure the barrenness of the world with a little baby.
 
Already but not yet. Baby Jesus brought with him new creation. Yet Earth is not Eden. Jesus, in his mercy, is letting sin and messiness persist for a time so that more people might come to know him. So in the meantime, his people live in messiness too.
 
Do I still weep when I read Psalm 128? Absolutely! Do I hope for the day that God will give me a glimpse of new creation in my own life in the form of a child? Yes! But I wait, knowing that my struggle with infertility is only a small part of something bigger going on in the world. And I draw hope from the stories of the barren women in scripture—not because I expect a physical child—but because they show that God is always on the move with something bigger than we in our pain can see.

We’re Adopting!

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Happy New Year Everyone! What a year 2012 was. I started this blog, which has been more amazing than I ever imagined. I’ve enjoyed getting to know to many of you. I’ve shared in the past a little bit about my pregnancy difficulties. I was pregnant for most of 2012, and suffered through the loss of five sweet little babies. God taught me a lot last year about trusting Him, even when I didn’t understand the process.

Some of you know that my husband Adam was adopted. When we were dating I loved learning about his story because adoption was something I had always considered. Early on in our marriage, before all the miscarriages, we discussed our desire to one day continue the legacy of adoption in our own family. In October of this year we finally made the decision to put pregnancy on the back burner and to seek God’s plan for our lives in a different direction.

Through lots of prayer and God’s hand working in a most obvious way, we have signed on with an adoption agency and within the next month or two we will be approved to be added to the waiting list to bring home our baby. At the moment we are waiting for our Home Study to be completed.

We are asking for your prayers as we move forward into 2013 hoping to finally become parents. We are also asking that you will begin to pray for our Birth Mom. We know she is out there somewhere. She may even be pregnant already. I can’t imagine how difficult this journey will be for her and I just want to bathe her in God’s peace.

Finally, we’re asking you to spread the word. If you know of anyone who is pregnant and is considering adoption for their child, let them know about us. We’re looking to adopt a baby from birth to 1 year old.

Thank you all for reading Homemaker Chic! I will keep you posted in this coming months. For now, here are some photos from our recent Adoption “Maternity” Photo Shoot photographed by the talented Patrick Smith. 🙂

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If you’re feeling called to help support us as we raise the $30,000-$40,000 it will cost to fund this adoption you can donate by clicking the button below. All proceeds will go directly toward our adoption costs and fees and any excess will be donated to another adopting family in need.

**UPDATE August 2013**

I am thrilled to share that God has given me the wonderful joy of finally becoming, and staying pregnant with our first son. I am 6.5 months along and everything is going great! You can read more about how this happened in this blog post. We are still planning to adopt near the end of next year, but per the recommendation of our adoption agency we are putting the active adoption plans on hold until after this baby is born. We are still raising money for the adoption, as it will certainly be a great cost. Thank you all so much for your prayers and continued support!

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Exceptional Womanhood

Yesterday someone was was asking me about myself. She asked what my passions were and what I did with my time. I told her about this blog, and all of you. I told her about school and how I was getting my degree in counseling. She asked what my goal was with all of that. I don’t know if I had verbalized it yet, but as I shared with her my love and passion for homemaking I realized how God has been pulling all of these things together for me.

I suppose its about time to come up with a mission statement for Homemaker Chic. My passion is for teaching women and girls the value and worth in being a homemaker. I want young women to learn that being a mother, wife, and all around Proverbs 31 woman is a wonderful and worthy calling.

Today in church my pastor spoke about being exceptional. He said that the only way to be exceptional in this world, is to be abnormal. To be different from the culture, and to seek greater things. While other women are reading 50 shades of grey and watching Magic Mike, I want to be reading the Bible, learning how to be more like Jesus and learning how to romance my husband. While other women are letting it all hang out, I want to be modest and pure.

Today women often find worth in being a sexual object, in being better or more powerful than men, in having a successful career. It seems to be highly abnormal for a young girl to say “I want to be a mommy when I grow up!”

I get the strangest looks when people ask what I do and I say, “I’m a homemaker.” The next question is inevitably… “So what exactly do you DO?” I don’t mind being abnormal, because I have a passion for families. Homemaking is a cornerstone to fostering godly well-mannered children, a peaceful haven for husbands, and a place of rest for the entire family. Even women who work can put their families first, my mother is a perfect example of this. She found a way to help my dad support the family, while also homeschooling her children and maintaining a lovely home.

I want this blog to be a call to cultural abnormality and exceptional womanhood. I want this blog to encourage women to build up their families and husbands- not tear them down. Let’s commit to being a different kind of woman. Let’s forget what society tells us we should be, and realize that God is calling us to something exceptional!

I know there are women out there who in the eyes of the world are very abnormal, but in the eyes of God are truly amazing and exceptional.

I’d like to dedicate this post to some truly exceptional and abnormal women in my life 🙂

I hope you ladies don’t mind me pointing you out!

Tammy, who is an amazing wife and mother. A sweet and loyal friend. Whose children are the most charming and well behaved boys I’ve ever met. Whose husband is a godly man and father. Who is an inspiration to me.

Ara, who beams with joy every time I see her. Who is a precious mommy, who loves her children and has committed to raising them in the way of the Lord. Who is a godly wife and a charming woman of God.

Cessie, who is a shrewd and thrifty homemaker. Who faithfully teaches and shapes her children. Who supports and loves her husband. Who has always been generous, sweet, kind, and modest. Who I have never seen without a smile on her face.

Danielle- my sister, who, though she is a single working mom, strives to teach her boys to be respectful men of God. Who puts raising her children before all else. Whose boys are brilliant and adore her. Who is one of the most thoughtful and creative women I know.

Phyl – my mother, who faithfully raised her children in the way of the Lord. Who still teaches me things daily. Who is a faithful student of God’s word, and a fervent prayer. Who has committed her life to strengthening marriages and families. Who is an incredible grandmother, still teaching and mentoring the next generation in our family.

This link below is to a talk given by Dannah Gresh who is a speaker on purity and raising girls and children to be godly. In this talk she shares the importance of family, and teaching our children to want a family of their own. If you have 20 minutes or so I highly recommend you listen to it. It really opened my eyes to the importance of family and what it means for our society.

Why Your Family is So Important – By: Dannah Gresh

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